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        要在好莱坞喜剧电影这片天地中闯出名堂，就必须想方设法花样翻新，创出自己的独门绝学。本•斯蒂勒的表演不像金•凯瑞那么张扬，他身材瘦小，总是一副郁郁不得志的压抑神情。他的脸活脱脱的就是一个受委屈的小媳妇，永远贴着“倒霉蛋”和“受气包”的标签。于是，当这个“小男人”遇到“狠角色”罗伯特•德尼罗时，他的“灾难”便注定要接二连三地降临。《拜见岳父大人》（2000）展现的就是这样的情景，影片让人领略到，婆媳之间的过招固然是不可理喻，翁婿之间的较量有时也是惊心动魄。
    斯蒂勒扮演的格雷鼓起勇气准备向心爱的女友求婚，但是浪漫的氛围被一个突如其来的电话搅乱。他必须先陪女友回家参加她妹妹的婚礼，顺便接受未来岳父的审核。还没踏入德尼罗的家门，在岳父大人强烈的气场辐射之下，他的一切就开始失控。在飞机场他装着钻戒的行李意外丢失，与龇牙咧嘴的空姐交涉也以他的失败告终。当他灰头土脸地来到女友位于纽约郊区的家，真正的麻烦才刚刚开始。
    在饭桌上，一向不善辞令的格雷为了博取两位老人的好感，不时地迸出几句幽默话，但结果都是适得其反，搞得气氛十分诡异。岳父大人看起来是个风度翩翩的园艺家，却对追求他女儿的人百般挑剔，总觉得没人配得上他心爱的大女儿。不仅如此，连那只宠物猫也对格雷充满着敌意。一连串既好气又好笑的事把格雷搞得手忙脚乱，霉运当头的他制造了一连串令人喷饭的糗事。
    影片最精彩之处是德尼罗与斯蒂勒两位主演之间迸发出的张力。德尼罗一向以饰演性格鲜明的黑帮人物而著称，他演起喜剧片来也毫不含糊。他扮演的岳父神情冷漠，喜怒不形于色，但具有非凡的控制力，轻而易举地将瑞格玩弄于股掌之中。这个冒失的未来女婿的一切都让他感到不爽，包括他的职业（护士），他的姓氏（“法克”），还有他的言谈举止。德尼罗真实的身份是一名中情局特工，因此甚至怀疑瑞格心怀不轨，给他戴上了测谎仪进行严刑拷问。
    斯蒂勒将这个看起来一无是处的男人演绎地十分传神。这个倒霉蛋也有暴发的时候，他在封闭的厕所里破口大骂，孰不知老爷子早就在厕所动了手脚，把他的行为看了个一清二楚。斯蒂勒小人得志的表情，配上一旁德尼罗想笑又尽力憋住的神情，让观众为之绝倒。他就是以这样一个小人物的形象，让人同情、惹人发笑，甚至放任观众幸灾乐祸。然而，小人物也有时来运转的一天，正是他的百折不挠和纯朴秉性，最终获得所有观众喜爱与认同。

   每次看到这些类型的片子，总是会下意识的比较美国家庭和中国家庭中父母子女的关系。记得昨天看American pie时，为其中一个男孩的父亲对他谈论性的那段情节念念不忘，搞笑是一方面，可是也体现了他们的开明程度。他在儿子去派对前说，你保证要做好安全措施。哇咔咔……这在中国也是可能有的场景，毕竟现在社会已经开明太多了，可是总是感觉有那么一点不同。
  其实我真的认为，每一个人都是独立自由的个体。当帕姆的爸爸搂着她，虎视眈眈的瞪着可怜的Focker时，帕姆只是一个小女孩，在爸爸的羽翼下。而当她和Focker两人在房间时，她又是一个正常的女人了。
  幸好帕姆的父亲在妻子的劝说中，以及女儿的电话中醒悟过来。他仍然是个好父亲。
  
  帕姆对他父亲说过，我真的很爱你，但有时候你真的很可恨。我希望这句话不是广大中国青少年们的心声。
  for parents，手要松开一些。

"2 love birds", quoted radomly somewhere popular, has fooled me that marriage is, all as well as just, about the 2 persons. However, in and after the movie, things don't quite work that way, practically.

Marriage is not about accepting the 1 person, but every person or even everything related to that 1 person. Even if that means a hell 100 in a row...i

Hmmm, what if, what if you are great with that 1 person, but just don't fit in that "whole circle"?
Will you give the possible ONE up over the inadequate uncomfort?
Or, does that mean he/she is not the ONE, if they are not the ONES?

       男主角法克确实很爱女友才能忍受他家人一次次的羞辱。本身他就到了一个陌生的环境里，不断去适应不断去迎合他们。只是为了在岳丈面前留下好印象的话，他本身就没必要撒谎。虽然只是善意的谎言，不是一个人精就问不出他岳丈那样的问题。嗯嗯，美国电影里面真是什么都能调侃。drug、sex、government，一点点的敏感大陆不早就pia飞了。法克内心还是够强大，一个男护士的职业就引起大部分人的嘲讽，不是说三百六十行都出状元嘛，这也不是一样的，医生看不起护士，护士看不起护工。可见有些世俗，不管国籍到处都一样...

觉得这片子其实不算是喜剧。

看到快最后时有点《当幸福来敲门》的感觉。

主人公只是个小人物，因为听女友说求婚先得征得岳父大人同意，于是费尽心机想博得岳父大人的好感，不料出师不利，开始了一个倒霉的周末。

看到他大闹飞机时，感觉很心酸。
其实只是处事方法与思维迥异，造成了夫婿之间的种种问题。但这种问题恰恰最难解决。

看到在拘留地测谎的环节时，为岳父大人感到一点悲哀。一个固执的老人，像他妻子说的：你觉得从来没人配得上你的Pam。听到女儿的真情电话表白，最后又放下自己的固执寻回未婚婿。用中国的一句老话就是可怜天下父母心。
其实如果刚开始就多一点宽容和理解，一切都不会越来越糟。

不知道是不是自己想复杂了。感觉这片子主题其实挺深刻，虽然不知道导演有没有想往深刻里挖掘。


自己的一点想法，不知道有没有人有同感。
没共鸣的人可以路过了，别喷~

The comic movie “Meet the Parents” is also a thought-provoking one. Instead of just keeping laughing and laughing, I think more about the main characters (Greg and Jack), prejudice, bias, the relations between children and parents, etc. Without a doubt, the comedy tries to tell us something serious in an easy way.

1. About Plot
This movie tells us a dramatic story of a couple of lovers and a visiting to the woman’s parents’ house in a humorous tone. The man whose name is Gaylord Greg Focker fell in love with the woman Pam Byrnes and he made up his mind to marry her. By listening to Pam and her sister’s phone call unintentionally, Greg realized that he should ask for her parents’ (especially her father’s) permission if he wants to marry her. So he prepared a lot for the visiting to her parents’ house.
However, Rome was not built in one day. Greg lost his parking which contained the rings for the propose to Pam during the flight to Pam’s parents’ home which led to the following series of bad consequences. It was clear that Pam’s father Jack didn’t like Greg at all. Greg’s profession is nurse, which lead to Jack’s prejudice; Greg did not like cats, which make Jack unhappy because he was fond of them; Jack even suspected that Greg took drugs just because he said something like ‘puff the magic dragon’ carelessly.
Fortunately, to meet viewers’ expectation, the film has a happy ending. At the end of the film, when Greg finally gave up and decided to leave, Pam’s father Jack was convinced and changed his attitude towards the lover of his daughter. Greg came to the family again and make the offer of marriage to Pam successfully.

2. About Gaylord Greg Focker
I share the same opinion with most of audiences that I like Greg very much. Although he seems to be a little bit stupid and slow in response, he is a truly reliable young guy as a husband as well as a son-in-law. This conclusion can be drawn from the scene in the movie that when Pam’s father made him promise to obey the rules so that he could be maintained in the trust circle, he just kept it in mind and followed it carefully.
What is the most important thing is that he loves Pam deeply, for he sacrificed a lot to try to gain appreciation from his future father-in-law. For instance, he got along as well as possible with the cat which he used to hate and received Jack’s polygraph test tamely (although it is unreasonable and impolite). Jack was very rude to Greg which we can observe from Jack’s behavior, like, he even did not allow Jack to use the toilet bowl. But Jack didn’t complain a word about these things because of his true love to Pam. What a frank and lovely man he is!

3. About Jack Byrnes
Besides Greg, I also have affection on the other main character Jack, the father of Pam. It is true that he is very rigid when judging his daughter’s boyfriend. However, I can tell that these were all resulted from his endless love towards his daughter. He fully prepared for a surprise for another daughter Deborah Byrnes’s wedding ceremony and cared a lot for Pam’s future life. He is like a mirror which reflects the depth of fathers’ love in the whole world. Jack also makes me think of my own father Simon who loves me very much. I am sure when I bring my boyfriend home one day in the future, he must be very picky too. Thinking about my father, I consider Jack a good father. I even feel pity for Jack for he would have to let his sweet daughter live with others in the future.

4. About Prejudice and Bias
In the movie, I am deeply impressed by the prejudice and bias in U.S. The social classes are divided clearly in U.S., which are the upper classes, the middle classes and the lower classes. The higher-class people have a prejudice against the lower-class people, which can be seen in many American films, novels and news reports. The only thing I dislike in the comedy is the obvious prejudice Jack showed to Greg. He thought that Greg was not a successful and industrious man because he was only a nurse; he invited Pam’s ex Kevin Rawley to home deliberately to make Jack embarrassed; he even investigated Jack’s background through CIA. I feel very sorry for this kind of bias which commonly exists all over the world, not only in China. I just wonder that why a person who earn money to make a living is prejudiced against just because his/her occupation is not ‘good’ enough ?

5. About Children and Parents
When talking about my opinion about the relationship between parents and their children, I’d like to talk about more my own experience and ideas. When I was living together with my parents, I always complain that they nearly controlled every aspect of my life and their rules almost extended to every corner of my own personal affairs. I was impatient about their suggestions or comments on my behaviors. However, as time goes by, as I grew up and apart my parents to attend the university, I miss them so much, even their strong controlling and rules. It is sort of weird, isn’t it? I finally know that it was a kind of true happiness when you have someone be around with you and care about you. So it is the love that combines our parents and us together firmly. Whatever they do and say is aimed to make us happy. Keep this in mind and cherish the time you are spending with your parents instead of regretting after losing them.